Monthly Archives: November 2007

Some Things Cannot Be Measured in Numbers

I recently read that psychoanalytic psychotherapy is a dying profession because its practitioners will not produce evidence-based techniques based on experimental research. There is a push for concrete “proof” that psychotherapies work, and many psychotherapists are dismissivie of therapies that … Continue reading

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Regulated not repressed

James Grotstein, in a talk at UCLA, explained that as an analyst, he is not trying to help people regulate themselves better. He is trying to create dysregulation since that is how you get at material that is over-regulated. He … Continue reading

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Shame and Responsibility

In Allan Schore’s books on self regulation and the brain, he explains early childhood experiences of connection and disconnection, the latter of which he believes is accompanied by shame. We bask in the warmth of our caregiver’s approval and love, … Continue reading

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Being Loved

One of the fundamental sources of emotional pain, I have come to believe, is the inability to let yourself be loved. Or, as Tara Brach puts it, “the trance of unworthiness.” Our own conviction that we do not have value … Continue reading

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Recognition Process

The idea of a “recognition process” is described by Louis Sander as a sort of “I sense that you sense that I sense…” This reminds me of conversations between people who have had too much to drink. “I know you … Continue reading

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Implicit Relational Knowing

With an emphasis on cognition as our source of knowledge and agency, it is easy to forget that there is more going on up in our heads than can be introspected directly. We devote a great deal of effort and … Continue reading

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Moments of Meeting

Listening to a lecture by Louis Sander, a psychiatrist and specialist in infant development research, I was interested in his description of the process of change in psychotherapy. In the past, he said, it was thought that change occurs as … Continue reading

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